My thanks to Jimmy Davis for this:
“Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ….” (Ephesians 4:15)
T. M. Moore offers insight into how to speak the truth in love:
There are two obstacles to be surmounted in learning to speak the truth in love. The first is that you must love the truth. If you do not love the truth you won’t care enough about it to learn it or to defend it when it is called into question or denied. To love the truth you must court it continually, engage it in conversation, take it into your heart and mind, yield all your life to it, speak of it often with others who love it, and thank the One Who gives us His truth. Before you begin to speak out on behalf of the truth, make sure you love it well.
The second obstacle is that you must love those to whom you would speak about the truth. If you do not love them you won’t care whether they hear the truth or not. You won’t care, either, about how you present the truth to them, and may be just as content to bash and hammer them with truth as to speak with gentleness and love. Loving those to whom you would speak of the truth can be as difficult as loving the truth. Both take time and effort and a constant line of communication to our loving Lord. But both these obstacles can be overcome.
And think of the gain in overcoming them: the joy of truth day by day as we wait upon the Lord in His Word; the excitement of talking with other truth-lovers and reinforcing and edifying one another in truth; and the adventure and utter delight of helping those who do not know the truth begin, at the very least, to glimpse it at last.
Begin by loving the truth, and the truth will teach you to love others, and to be the bearer of truth to them, in love.
Help me, Lord, to love Your truth and to love those to whom I would proclaim it.